Dare to be you.

I have always been an adult, but meeting Ali has bought out the kid in me.

The hardest part for me has been  to be  me,  my! Worry should have been my second name. "You enjoy worrying Oyinda" Ali would mutter. I could not just let go, I always wanted to be perfect,not for myself but for everyone else, I craved for people to like me, I wanted to be the light in the party, yes you guessed right, I never hit the mark.

I have lost a lot of friends whom were ready to let me be Oyinda, but because I was busy trying to be a perceived notion, I was a very unhappy person.

At work, I saw everything as a personal vendetta, trying to please everybody,  i was so stupid that i also had to ammend myself because of neighbors, O ma se o! (What a pity in Yoruba) Mumu girl (Oyinda).

The point is that the people I was trying to please are never impressed.image

What a waste of time,  be yourself always.

 

Life is worth living happy.

 

 

Comments

  1. adumaradanFebruary 14, 2016 at 11:36 AM

    Oyinda, true words.
    The people we are trying to impress don't even take notice.
    I've learnt to be myself and satisfy myself and no one else.

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  2. oyindamogoldFebruary 14, 2016 at 11:40 AM

    Deep words adumaradan. Thank you for confirming my thoughts.

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